can we just be friends?

That’s the questions. Lately. I was thinked a lot of relationships matter. When I’ve a conversations with my friend, she is always argue due this topic.

“ do u thinked that u n ur ex will turned out to be a good friends? Besties?

My answer is in the middle one.
I don’t want to talked about the others. But, based on my experienced. Im gonna say.

NO n YES with IF.

The synopsis

saye knl my ex boyf mase umur belasan tahun. Mase form 3 da gatal nk bercinte kan kan?..;) n luckily the relationships hold for almost 5 years. Mase umur 15 sampai umur sayer nearly 20. ( I dun really agreed when peps said that was “puppy lovers” I do trust that, yang membezakan sesebuah hbgn tue berjaye or x. bergantung kepada kematangan, n komitmen kite. Ahh ader bnyk lagi side factor.. mls nk ckp.. heh) when he pursuing his studies at UTM skudai that time.(one semester left, Engineer in making) Kitorang dah pun clash. Die curang mase kat Matriks melake weh! I hate melake for a while. Hehe. Walaupun saye sangat la tersiksa mase tue. But, I did gratefull because I do believe that everythings happened, happened for a reasons. ;)
Incoinsidence, mase sayer msk uum,( early of year 2006) his gf ( now, ex-gf) is in the same univ with me. (now she will graduate soon. Happy u!) Im jolted when that girl approached me (nicely) at the campus.

“ ni syikin kan? ( die tarik tangan sayer ok?”)
“ yup..”
(2 minit sesi perbualan)

Sangat kecil dunia ni kan??
Sayer sgt terkejut mcm mane die boleh kenal saye even x penah jumpe n die jwb;

“ die penah tunjuk gambar u”

Oh really? Amusing.

The sms :

“ oit awk, syikin dah jumpe gf awk. die tegur syikin. Asal tunjuk gmbr syikin kat die??”
“ dah die tnye sape 1st love sy.. tunjuk la..”
“ ah.. syikin x suke..”
“ dah lepas pun…”
“ awk ckp sng ah.. awk x ingat ke? Pempuan tu la sbb kte break dulu?”
“ bukan awk ker yg suh sy carik pempuan len dulu.. gaduh jer suh carik len?”
“ awk xpnh fhm.. benci ckp dgn awk..”
“ awk mcm tue la....”
(ini zaman ketidakmatangan + emosi berbaur bengang)

Cube anda bace betul2 teks tersebut n fahami maksud tersirat tentang ape yg saye nak sampaikan. Boleh ke kte just berkwn sahaje bila kite ambil sesuatu isu dan mengaitkan benda tu dgn tentang pengalaman lepas n mula nak mengungkit n at last kte gak yg sakit hati n hasil nyer lebih buruk kan keadaan? kalau jumpa atau bercakap dgn ex anda dgn cara sebegini. I will said no. U just cant be friends..;(

Again. Depends.

( The sms)
Around nearly one year just after the break off.

Walaupun kitorang dah break. Kitorang selalu jugak jumpa sbb die asal taiping kan? So, susah nak elak. ( im being so frofesional okeh?) Mula-mula tu kekok jugak coz kte x dapat nak bezakan yg sebelah kte tu adalah ex kte. (cara ckp n so on) Do trust my words. Things changed, but in certain way. a bit tough! Kenal dah lama kan? So, bnyk perkara yg saye tau n fhm tntg die. Kalau balik taiping dari skudai,

(currently)
nearly 3 years after break off

“ awk, free?
“ asal?
“ teman sy gi beli baju, barang dapur umah sket, bayar kereta, beli popiah basah, beli buah pisang berangan.. sy xtau ah camne?”
“ asal awk mongok sngt neh? Pisang berangan pun xtau ke?
“ tu sbb la ajak awk itam oiiii... jgn ckp bnyk boleh x awk? nak teman ke xmau?”
“ x mau..”
“ awk mmg! Sy ajak jer semedang xmau. Tkt bf marah?”
“ awk tu yg patut isau gf awk mrh.. syikin relax jer.. bf pun xde” (anyone? Heh)
“ ok. 15 minit lagi sampai.”
“ oi!! Sape kate syikin nak g ni?”
“ siap!”

;).. saye n mantan pacar masih boleh berkawan when we thinked back about the 5 years relationships. (sebenarnya plus the years after break off is nearly 8 years) What have u gained out regarding the experienced. (kefahaman, keserasian, keselesaan, keselamatan. Ini sngt penting oke!) bukan masenye utk kter berdendam. bersifat egois dan sebagainya. ya mmg sakit kalau ingat perbuatan atau kesilapan yang pernah berlaku. MAAF adalah penawar yg paling MUJARAB utk hati yg TEGAR. Percayalah.. YANG SUDAH TU SUDAH LAH. That’s the point. In this case. I said yes. We can just be a friends..;)

HERE N NOW. bukan dulu atau esok.

so, I was thinking. Why shud we stopped n just ignoring them just because all the things before? Semua tu pnglmn. Melakukan kesilapan dan seterusnya mematangkan kter dalam sesebuah perhubungan. (cara anda berfikir, bertindak dan masa akan lebih membantu)

Oh ok. Sekiranya kes anda berlainan.(lebih kejam n menyayat hati) Do ignore what ive written ok? (Do as what u think better than this) Heh. Kdg2 saye risau. X ke tindakan sy tue buat hbgn die dgn gf die yg sedia ade berantakan. even niat kte baik? Kalo saye pun saye marah kan? Jealous lebih sesuai.

Again. Depends.

My ex boyf always said :

“ awk knl sy lebih lame dari die.. awk kwn terbaik sy.. kalau die xleh terima.. mslh bg die..”

Again. Depends.

So, kesimpulannya, terpulang. Terpulang pada anda semua untuk melihat sejauh mana tindakan anda memberi kesan dalam hidup anda dan org sekeliling anda. (niat anda lebih penting, niat yang baik2 sudah) Yeap. Cinta datang dan pergi. Tapi persahabatan yang bermakna? Just think by urself.

If someone ask me.

U syg ex boyf u?

I will answer..

“ yes” ( versi berlainan oke? friends)

why?

“ because.. seems hard to say goodbye.” ;)…

To my ex boyf :

"Syikin doakan awk berbahagia selalu. DIberkati Allah segala usaha. Jadi engineer yang berjaya n kaya raya..;) Anak yg baik pada emak dan abang yg baik pada 2 adiknya.Kahwin dgn cikgu nana seperti yg dirancang ( his currently gf, English teacher, UTM). n kte always akan jadi bestfren paling baik dlm dunia. thanks for everythings. Amin. Awk. Tolonnnnnnggggg laaa. Jgn main gym. Awk buruk jadik body builder. Ee.. "

Im so positive minded person. ( FACT)
Im glad to having beautiful peps around me. ( SWEAR)
Saye bersyukur atas segalanya. Allah Loves me more n more. ( PRAY)
Do heart broken recently. (pray a lot, ada jodoh tak ke mana) Love getting complicated.
A thousands mile journey to ride.
Do keep in moving!!

**oh. Hopefully. I answered ur questions babe! Yes. U can be just a friends! Masa di samping anda. Use it wisely!!


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